May 032014

When in my caregiver days, I came across a quote by Elizabeth Cady Stanton: “Self-development is a higher duty than self-sacrifice.” It struck a cord with me.

In many care giving situations, as the duties become greater, there comes a time when care giving becomes overwhelming. I found myself in that situation and did not know where to turn. Fortunately while waiting at the Veteran’s Hospital I saw a board that listed coaching jobs. Although I was familiar with some coaching strategies, what I knew was about coaching athletes, while theirs was health coaching. I too k down the number, though, and called for their offer of a free life coach session, wondering what the difference was between now three different terms or categories of coaching and how any one of them could help me in my grief over feeling abandoned.

While you might already know this but at the time, I was astonished that it was going to be a challenge to figure out what kind of coach to look for. Did you know there is presentation coaching? It’s for executives and public speakers. Life coaching is about life – your life if you choose a coach. And there are ever increasing numbers of specialized coaching – relationship coaching, spiritual coaching, coaching for men, for women, for cancer victims, for their families, yes, and there is coaching for caregivers.

How do you know which one is right for you? Gratefully, before you have to pay life coaching fees, most coaches offer you a free life coach session that can last for up to an hour, to see if you and the coach are a good match.

Over the years, I have used several coaches for different needs and my investment has paid for itself over and over. I also got to know some coaches personally or learned of their fine work and the successes their clients achieved.

In the resource area, you’ll find a number of recommendations of coaches who might be a god match for you.

What can a coach do for you?

I soon learned that the way coaches can help clients is because they can stand back and see things objectively. The trauma and emotional turmoil one can get embroiled in as a caregiver distorts everything so that one often only perceives doom and gloom and neglects ones own needs. A coach can reconnect you with your spirituality so you tune in better to yourself and the people around you. A coach can bring out the best in you, help awaken dreams you might have put on the back burner while focusing on care giving, might direct you to your passion and show you how to make it all come together.

Athletes, musicians and other performers know they benefit from the use of coaches. None who is serious about his progress would expect to progress without a coach or more. Doesn’t it stand to reason that we all can benefit in our life achievements when working with a coach?